Reset Families Book – Chapter 7 Overview

Using Consequences as Teaching Tools

Develop consequences that become teaching tools rather than punishment. Learn the characteristics of effective consequences that are reasonable, related to the behavior and restorative. Learn to come up with consequences that build hope rather than causing resentment and anger.


“We emphasize three attributes of effective consequences. Focus on making your consequences, Related, Reasonable and Restorative. When these attributes are applied, it can help kids recognize the connection between their behaviors and the outcomes or results they are experiencing. We can’t promise your kids will like the consequences. Nor can we guarantee you’ll never hear “that’s not fair”. But if you apply the three attributes when you are determining consequences, your child is more likely to see them as fair.”

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